Failure is a heavy word.
Did my business ended or it failed?
Could it be that I didn’t have a clue what I was doing, or was I simply learning?
Compare ‘my business ended and it’s not my fault’ with ‘my business failed and it’s my fault’. It’s easier to make yourself responsible for what went wrong when you don’t feel guilty about it.
Many conversations about failure in our heads are tainted with guilt, but remove guilt from the equation and all we have are the consequences of certain decisions and facts that we did or didn’t have control over.
The problem with guilt is that nobody wants to own it, so we end up passing it on to someone else: the team, the market, the circumstances.
When we make ourselves responsible there is no guilt – just space to grow in and the energy to try over and over again.