Have you noticed the voice in your head every time something good is happening in your business or in your life? Have you realised how you find excuses not to jump at an opportunity? Can you see the pattern?
There is a diference between self-talk and self-sabotage, and it’s sneaky.
Self-talk can encourage you to bring out your best, but self-sabotage will find reasons not to do what you want to do. The problem is recognising which is talking.
Here are some questions to ask yourself when self-sabotage is knocking at your door.
Is this project, client, opportunity something I’ve wanted for a long time?
If this goes well (define ‘well’), will it make a difference to my life and my business?
What am I most scared of? Is this about failing, not doing a good job, or people realising that unable to do it?
What was my initial intention in wanting this opportunity to happen? Is it still important?
You’ll find yourself presenting a lot of objections to these questions such as ‘This isn’t the right moment’; ‘I want, but not like this’; ‘There’ll be other opportunities’, or ‘This is setting me up for failure’.
The only good answer that I know to all of these is ‘I’m going to do it anyway’. Not because I’m sure about the results, but because it matters to me.